Here’s the thing, it is not always the ideal time to ask a partner or loved one to listen to our needs or talk more about something that is triggering 😡 to us. Remember, it is okay to PAUSE/STOP 🛑 a conversation.
Listen in as I share this short clip above from an interview series I did on the topic of communication.
You see the best of us will be challenged with communication when we are fighting for what we want.
Does this sound all too familiar?
➡️ Your find it difficult to trust your feelings
➡️ Your concerned about being vulnerable
➡️ You are challenged in accessing a brain, heart, and body coherence
When I reflect on my own difficult conversation moments these key points have been a saving grace for the longevity and quality of my relationships.
The keys are:
➡️ Knowing your nervous system
➡️ Listening to your body intelligence
➡️ Being able to gracefully and concisely say NO/STOP.
These take a commitment to oneself and regular practice plus development of emotional intelligence. Trust me it doesn’t happen overnight. However with willingness these embodied skills are a relationships best friend.
Otherwise, over time the not trusting feelings, avoiding vulnerability, and lacking brain/heart/body coherence leads to living in a body of tightly wound knots that encourages specific stress holding patterns that communicate your needs and stay intimately connected nearly impossible.
Can you relate? Do you find you are struggling with difficult conversations that end in arguments, and door slams, leaving you frustrated and even more stressed? Send me a DM, and I’ll be happy to help you out!
Can you relate? Do you find you are struggling with difficult conversations that end in arguments, and door slams, leaving you frustrated and even more stressed? Send me a DM, and we can see if my private mentoring programs might be a fit for your present day needs.