The changing currents of relationships, we have all been through them. I often say one of the biggest pitfalls for any relationship is holding onto the idea or expectation that we, or the person/people we are in relationship with, will be the same tomorrow, next month, 1, 5 or 10 years down the road. [...]
I love unpacking ideas and believe cultivating a deeper understanding of these topics are essential to creating change for humanity and in our own lives. Recently I was on a date and we were having the sex talk. I have a sexual boundary when I am still getting to know someone that I use a condom during oral sex. The person I was with really wanted to have oral sex without a condom. They were knowledgeable in the field of health and expounded about how safe unprotected oral sex is. Some may see this as a person doing their best to manipulate a situation. To convince me to override my own personal boundary.
Where do your self-expectations and agenda in the bedroom interfere with truly experiencing the intimacy you desire? Imagine you’re on a date with your partner, your mind is racing with ideas of how you want the night to be, how you are going to be that wild, passionate man which includes getting an erection, staying erect and having the most powerful ejaculation of a lifetime! But... what if now that your mind is so busy, your parts just won't comply?
I would like to share a story. A young boy was out skipping through the forest. In his hand he had the most precious of stones. He was singing, skipping, tossing the stone around in his hands. As he came upon a pristine lake he was in such awe, that he lost his footing and tripped over a stone. Suddenly that precious stone was sparkling through air as it flew out of his hands and soon was sinking to the bottom of the lake.