12 Men, 12 Humans, 12 Sex Offenders, receiving a chance to be empowered to make different choices in life. An invitation to live my Dharma more fully found me late in 2019. Imagine living identified as a number or a title. Imagine not having a name, having your humanness forgotten in a system, and [...]
Conflict can happen during any season where stress is elevated whether it be with our partners, friends or family. It can get crazy with so many personalities and so many needs wanting to be met. I so get it! This is why I want to bring to light more of the messy tough moments so [...]
Threesomes were never on a bucket list or a hidden fantasy in my life as I explored sexuality. They did, though, find me along the life path both personally as well as professionally. I find great passion in taking this sometimes, out of reach fantasy, and making it more accessible, intimate and heartful for anyone [...]
The truth is I don't always want to be touched, kissed, or actively share affection with my partner. Seriously, someday’s, I wake up, and I desire to have a day in silence, just with myself exploring, turning my attention and energy inwards. I don't want to be touched or to touch. I don't desire [...]
The changing currents of relationships, we have all been through them. I often say one of the biggest pitfalls for any relationship is holding onto the idea or expectation that we, or the person/people we are in relationship with, will be the same tomorrow, next month, 1, 5 or 10 years down the road. [...]
What do you do when you find yourself emotionally triggered within a relationship dynamic. My partner and I enjoy geeking out on relational topics especially as we explore co-creating relationship on our terms and not what society tells us is the "right" way or what has been role modeled to us in our upbringing.
While it is not your partner's responsibility to fulfill your needs what happens is often those choosing to be in a relationship share in similar needs, values and desires in life. By sharing the same values and aspirations, we naturally meet in our shared yes versus doing what so often happens such as being accommodating and overriding our own needs.
In my personal experience, when I think of oral sex or oral pleasing, I see it as an expression of honoring the cock. I melt with pleasure every time I intentionally traverse my lover's body. Here is where presence is the best presence of all.
Happy Masturbation/Self Pleasure Month! As a way to celebrate I want to share with you my special mindfulness based self-pleasuring ritual taken from my latest book "Revolutionizing Intimacy".
Introspection and Solo Time are two powerful allies when it comes to managing or calming those emotional triggers. Have you ever asked yourself, what are your boundaries when emotionally upset, tired, and your nervous system is feeling jacked up? Do you force yourself to be present, have a conversation at that moment, answer questions where you may not have clarity? Or do you set a boundary to take a break, pause and provide a safe haven for your body, nervous system and mind to return to equanimity?