NO, is a Loving Word

The truth is I don't always want to be touched, kissed, or actively share affection with my partner.    Seriously, someday’s, I wake up, and I desire to have a day in silence, just with myself exploring, turning my attention and energy inwards. I don't want to be touched or to touch. I don't desire [...]

By |2019-11-15T09:28:25-08:00November 15th, 2019|new|0 Comments

The Closed Door

What do you do when you find yourself emotionally triggered within a relationship dynamic. My partner and I enjoy geeking out on relational topics especially as we explore co-creating relationship on our terms and not what society tells us is the "right" way or what has been role modeled to us in our upbringing.

By |2019-07-26T12:14:51-07:00June 9th, 2019|new|0 Comments

What Do You Mean You Won’t Fulfill All My Needs?!

While it is not your partner's responsibility to fulfill your needs what happens is often those choosing to be in a relationship share in similar needs, values and desires in life. By sharing the same values and aspirations, we naturally meet in our shared yes versus doing what so often happens such as being accommodating and overriding our own needs.

By |2019-07-26T12:00:33-07:00April 30th, 2019|new|0 Comments

The Art of Honoring The Cock

In my personal experience, when I think of oral sex or oral pleasing, I see it as an expression of honoring the cock. I melt with pleasure every time I intentionally traverse my lover's body. Here is where presence is the best presence of all.

By |2019-07-26T12:02:36-07:00March 21st, 2019|new|3 Comments

Introspection and Self Care To Manage Your Emotional Triggers

Introspection and Solo Time are two powerful allies when it comes to managing or calming those emotional triggers. Have you ever asked yourself, what are your boundaries when emotionally upset, tired, and your nervous system is feeling jacked up? Do you force yourself to be present, have a conversation at that moment, answer questions where you may not have clarity? Or do you set a boundary to take a break, pause and provide a safe haven for your body, nervous system and mind to return to equanimity?

By |2019-07-26T12:24:31-07:00March 16th, 2018|new|0 Comments

Deeper Thinking About Sexual Misconduct and Giving Our Power Away

I love unpacking ideas and believe cultivating a deeper understanding of these topics are essential to creating change for humanity and in our own lives.  Recently I was on a date and we were having the sex talk. I have a sexual boundary when I am still getting to know someone that I use a condom during oral sex. The person I was with really wanted to have oral sex without a condom. They were knowledgeable in the field of health and expounded about how safe unprotected oral sex is. Some may see this as a person doing their best to manipulate a situation. To convince me to override my own personal boundary.

By |2019-07-26T12:26:38-07:00January 9th, 2018|Uncategorized|0 Comments

When Your Sexual Expectations Fail You

Where do your self-expectations and agenda in the bedroom interfere with truly experiencing the intimacy you desire?  Imagine you’re on a date with your partner, your mind is racing with ideas of how you want the night to be, how you are going to be that wild, passionate man which includes getting an erection, staying erect and having the most powerful ejaculation of a lifetime! But... what if now that your mind is so busy, your parts just won't comply?

By |2019-07-26T12:35:50-07:00July 26th, 2017|Uncategorized|0 Comments