How often have you really, I mean really wanted something?   Yet your old belief system told you that you did not deserve it?  Or, afraid of what others may think, you held yourself back from asking for it? Maybe at some point you really wanted a meal made a certain way? You had a preference on a date yet settled without speaking your mind? How many times have you held yourself back from sharing a sexual desire or fantasy?

 

Let me share a story with you about a man, a woman and a piece of pure bliss wrapped in a chocolate cake.

 

Sitting outside of the market today with a friend, laughing and discussing our various journey’s over the past 6 months, we were preparing to share an intentional day out in the midst of the forest.  All of a sudden, a man who was giving away the most scrumptious looking chocolate cake approached us. He came up tall, happy, and with two plates of this cake asking us if we would like a piece. I declined, yet my friend at first with wide eyes said “hmmmm” with a bit of hesitation. Than she asks if she can have a small piece of what is on the plate. The man did not hear her under her slight hesitation of a voice. She casually said “never mind”, when he asked her to repeat what she had said. She felt the desire to have the cake, yet she wanted it in a slightly different form than what he had offered.

 

I love championing for what people desire especially when they hold back from asking for what they want. I quickly spoke up “ Sir, my friend here would love a bit of the big piece.  Can she just take that little corner that is on the plate?”   He said “of course” as she reached out with joy to receive the sweet, sensual, bit of chocolate deliciousness.

 

I believe that if you want something you should ask for it because you deserve it.  The other will either say no or yes, yet you will never know unless you express exactly what you want. My friend did not want the full piece of cake but she did want a small bite.

 

My friend and I reflected how this example was a huge illustration of where so many people are in life and relationships. How many times have you really wanted something, and found yourself holding back?  Thoughts that you don’t deserve it or it’s not that important or that people will think you are crazy or selfish begin to surface.

 

We know life would not have ended if she did not get that piece of cake. Yet she desired to have it! How empowering it is to use your voice, and fully receive in life and love, even love for cake.

 

This theme may come up in many areas of your life from work, to family, to intimacy and sexual relations. When we settle and don’t ask for what we want in the from of clear, honest communication we begin to resent, get frustrated and experience a lack of confidence and creative expression.

 

Today, I challenge you to ask for that piece of cake!   Share and communicate exactly how you desire something. Watch how free the heart and throat will begin to feel.

 

You will be giving a gift to your significant other as their joy is in bringing over that cake for you to fully enjoy!

 

You can have your cake and eat it too!

 

© Tziporah Kingsbury